I cant connect to my server
 

Is it because i'm behind a router? the 6.0 tutorial on how to run a server has a link to what to do if your behind a router but it doesnt work. other people can connect but zones are unavailable, what do i do?

you need to make sure that you have the correct ports forwarded. Alternativley you can put your computer in the DMZ (demilitarized Zone) baisicly putting your computer out of the firewall. This will allow any access to your computer.