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Whenever i try to connect (double clicking on eq icon) it tells me its going to upgrade to the sony launchpad, is it suppose to? please help, thank you for taking out time to help =)

You made your shortcut to everquest.exe instead of eqgame.exe like you are supposed to. Follow the play guide and make the shortcut to eqgame.exe with the patchme option in the shortcut. Also, since you already ran everquest.exe, there is a good change you will need to uninstall EQ, delete the EQ folder completely, and then install Titanium or SoF again fresh from the disks without patching.