Your only option is to use minilogin and follow the basic instructions
you you want my personal database pm ME and I will set it up for you to download off my website.
<it's over 300 megs >
it has a lot of spawns missing from the basic ones.
as far as installing a server your on you own just like the rest of us.
start here.
http://www.eqemulator.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=17531