If you can go to winmysqladmin 1.4 server properties and in my.ini Setup tab you should see your username/pass info at the bottom.
Next you should download the myODBC driver from my site
http://66.159.225.58/eqemu/ODBC_DRIVERS.ZIP
and install. Reboot and try again.
If that does not work then send me a private email and we can go from there.
also, what is the error you're getting?
GeorgeS