I highly recommend MysqlCC as it makes for easy editing of the accounts. If you followed the wikki on set up it probably has your account on your host listed with the 172.0.0.1 in the database which will have to be changed to the hosts IP address instead
As far as the host computer not connecting...I had to change the IP address in my hosts EQHOST.TXT to that of the login server instead of 172.0.0.1 or it did not work either.
Gotta run. Hope that helps.
Players Wikki link below:
If you are on your own server steps 2 & 3 are not really necessary. Step 4 will require your login servers IP.
http://www.eqemulator.net/wiki/wikka...ategoryPlaying