The only differences in mine are in
Loginserver.ini I have my worldaddress set to the IP Address of the Server and in the XML file I have the server's IP address in both the <address> </address> in the World Section and <host> </host> in the loginserver section.
I don't run my eq client on the server, so my eqhost.txt file has my server's ip address in it.
To test it as you were, I didn't run launcher and I can see my server, but it's locked as it should be with no zones running. My Mini Login looked nothing like yours though after the new Server connection line. It was blank until my client connected and then only was showing the client connection.
Could it be because it can't read the launcher table in your database, it's causing the World to not show up? I'm referring to the 2 ERRORS in your World.exe Output box.
[Error] Starting Log: logs/eqemu_error_world_3408.log
[Error] WorldDatabase::GetLauncherList: #1146: Table 'luclin.launcher' doesn't exist