tome of order and discord is handed out by the priest of discord
when you ask him about the [tome of order and discord] he gives you one and explains it... handing it back will make u pvp
and yes you are correct about the spells. i believe the caster classes each start out with a level 1 spell... additionally they also have a spell scribed in their spellbook usually... but i dont know if there is a way to implement that using the `start_items` table or not
edit:
i also made another post after taking the time to make a list of all the races/classes etc for the starting items table:
http://www.eqemulator.net/forums/showthread.php?t=22079
might help you with the modifications