Server startup isnt really my thing, I tend to do more with in-game things and let a friend of mine do the actual setup and hardware hassles. So I honestly cannot tell if you there are errors in the above posts without having to stare at it for an hour and check it against the wiki.
But,
if everyone says what you have above is correct, try setting the zone you are attempting to enter to a
Static state before ever attempting to load the character up. That way the zone is already up when you attempt to log in.
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edit: might want to make sure your worldname in loginserver.ini and long name in eqemu_config.xml is the same, just in case.
I was checking this wiki page and saw that they were the same there. Not sure if it is required.