Make sure you have no software firewall mounted for now - make sure you have the right Ip Address in your database for your account: this would be in the account table at the minilogin_ip column < here, you need to put in the proper ip address from your client machine. There's an updater called "php_updater" that will do this for you. I have it posted at Rathe forums:
http://eq.ismg.ch/mirkwood/news.php you have to be a member (no strings attached) in order to see and download from the downloads sections.
If you still have problems look into your c:\eqemu\logs\ and post any errors you see.