These are the spells that memory blur.
http://everquest.allakhazam.com/db/s...&action=search
If you take out the ones below 65 (I think eqemu only goes up to level 65) and the non client spells that should cover all the spells that have a % chance to wipe the hate list. Other than that there's just feign death as far as I know.
Not sure if this helps or not, but it's a place to start.