I am assuming the server is for LAN play, I use this windows setup guide for reference whenever something is giving me problems.
Go to
http://www.eqemulator.net/wiki/wikka...kka=ws1129r222 and review everything you have setup. Pay particular attention to the section setting up eqemu_config.xml which connects the emulator to your database.
Note: Once you get everything working backup your eqemu_config.xml because it will get overwritten by the default .xml file if you ever update your files and will have to be replaced with your personal copy every time.