Sorry to get back to this so late - life got a little busy
Seems that everyone coming in from outside does not get the error I see above, which is fine. The reason I cannot hard-code a HOSTS record is because I host multiple Emulators on the same dyndns (maybe I shouldn't do that

) so if I force tesseq.servegame.com to 192.168.1.32. then any attempt to hit my EQ2Emu will send my client to the wrong LAN machine, right?
Anyway, if it's just me that cannot use mail/chat, I'm fine with that for now. I did get it to work at one point, because two toons were able to login and send mail to one another. Not sure if that was just a fluke, or if for a version or two, something functioned differently

likely the former.
Thanks for the great explain. Hopefully it ends up in a wiki somewhere.