This page has all the info you should need for learning how to compile it on Windows:
http://www.eqemulator.net/wiki/wikka.php?wakka=VS2008
Or, you could setup a Linux server and make compiling as easy as typing "make" :P
IMO, if your main concern is having options, then you should take the time to figure out how to compile your own source. If you are not worried about options, then just use the Binaries and you will still have plenty of options but not as many as compiling yourself. Your main concern has been options for so long, you should have learned how to do this long ago! There is only so much we can do to give options with Binaries, but with compiling yourself, the options are practically limitless :P