Don't know which guides you attempted to use but try one of the following.
Public Server
Code:
http://www.eqemulator.org/forums/showthread.php?t=32980
Private Server
Code:
http://www.eqemulator.org/forums/showthread.php?t=32293
These are the most recent guides that I am aware of and they are also very easy to follow. There will likely be some file name differences but common sense should get you through that part.