Check the sticky post in this forum.
Also the files section for EQEmu.
Regardless, make sure you get (or alter) the DB for which ever version of EQEmu your using.
As for DB managment, personally I like MySQL-Front even though it is discontinued. Altenatives are the official MySQL Control Center, or MyFrontend
Mysql-Front, and MyFrontend can be found at
http://mysqlfront.venturemedia.de/
MySQL Control Center at
http://www.mysql.org