hmmm, that got me a new problem
the end of world.exe says this when trying to connest to my server
127.0.0.1: Wrong name/pass: name='eqemu'
Removing client from ip:127.0.0.1 port 3573
my user name is not surposed to be eqemu, not sure where that was input, so I dumped and resourced the database and it still says it.