If you are just trying to play on someone else's server then you either still dont have it right (read spaces where there shouldnt be or no spaces where there should be), or you need to re-run the EQLive patcher. Did you create the shortcut properly?
Code:
C:\Eqemu\eqgame.exe patchme
On your desktop? (assuming you are playing from a backup of everquest and that it is located in C:\Eqemu)
You are not trying to play from a college are you? Most colleges block all but the standard ports, and you will not be able to play unless you set up a proxy...