I had the same problem..
Messed around for hours and hours and even IP forwarding
doesn't help.
I gave it up cause i think there is no way to get it up and running that way..
And why do you want an EverQuest server if you can't login it yourself
Only thing you can do is running your Everquest program and the server on the same computer.. Then it works fine hehe
No option for me anyway but maybe it is for you lol