Everything working fine except eqemu patcher- with router

[IAJacko]

Heyas, i play on eqlive and just found out about eqemu so i have the latest patch for eq. I downloaded the eqemu patcher and installed it to the Evequest directory yet always get a "Cannot Connect to Patch Server" message.

I have 2 PC's running on a NetComm NB3100 Cable/DSL Firewall Router. I think that may be the problem. Ive tried that DMZ host thing but still didn't work :( .

I know there are a lot of posts about the patcher, but ive gotten so close to playing eqemu!!! its just when i click "Play Everquest" at the server select screen that it goes wrong!!

Any help is greatly appreciated
Thanks