Ok Dr....I told you I was slow..
I'd been pointing to EverQuest.exe, not eqgame.exe (which incidentally is outlined pretty clearly in the FAQ....but.....like I said.. I'm slow)
Still have the "Logging in to the login server, please wait..." message and unable to get to the log in server, but at least it's not repatching on me now
Is there a way to see if I have an incompatible client version?
Again, my thanks for your help. Sorry for being a n00b.