check my other reply to your post in the general section for a link to GeorgeS tools. can heavily modify any server with only an hour or so worth of research into the tools. very easy to use.
as for setting up a server there is the PEQ installer which you might have to jump through a hoop or two to get atm due to the main site being down.
and a newer option ( i think?) is
leslamarch's portable eqemu server setter-upper
at first it all seems very overwhelming, but be paitient, work through whatever bugs popup, and in no time you'll be EQing to your hearts content.