You need to add your server's IP address in the eqemu.config.xml file under the WORLD Heading near the top of the file. Below is what works for me when using mini login. Put YOUR Server's IP address in under <address> </address> and the local host address in <localaddress>.
Code:
<!-- Only specify these two if you really think you need to. (read: You don't) -->
<!-- <address>192.168.0.1</address> -->
<!-- <localaddress>127.0.0.1</localaddress> -->