I know this is for public server, but it has a lot of good information.
http://www.eqemulator.org/forums/showthread.php?t=32980
Cmake is newer than this, so ignore the part about setting up VS C++ when you install it. Also I'd be sure to use perl 5.12, as I had a lot of issues with 5.14 and 5.16.
I'm new at this, so I'm not able to give any direct guidance on setting up a LAN server.
Have fun!