These are the servers I recomend playing depending on the type of gameplay you want.
If you want a legit pve non-norrath based server,
Winter's Roar. would be a good choice. Also happens to be the most populated server in eqemu.
If you want legit pvp based on prekunark norrath, I would choose
Guild Wars. Also, guilds can take controll and fight over all citys.
have fun playing eqemu. :)