Newbie here.

[Criimson]

1-is eqemu,in its basic form,just like EQlive?Is everything in place?Quests,mobs,items,epics,zones,combines,etc.. or are they hand placed and made by the team?If not,whats missing from the EQ experiance?Or do i need some sort of other files?

The two major distros that are Live-focused are:
PEQ - http://eqemu.sesmar.net/
and
Angelox's Classic DB -
http://www.nahunta.org/~angelox/
Both of these you can play on their server or DL and host your own
If you are new to MySQL I'd suggest going to PEQ and getting their server pack..it will take care of most of the setup for you.

2-Has anyone made a UI thats just like the classic one from the kunark/velious era that i loved and miss so much?

Go to www.eqinterface.com as I seem to remember seeing one there that was based on the old interface. Just remember to DL interface parts made for OoW, DoN, DoD, or earlier as the new things won't work and may cause issues.

3-Is there a way to spawn the items and levs that me and my friends/family had when we quit EQ so we could pick up right were we left off?

You can go to http://66.159.225.58/eqemu/eq.html and use the item editor. It will allow you to add any magelo to your characters (ie the exact one you had when you quit) and also has a ton of other tools to help you with your DB.

6-What files do i need for a mini login/lan server for me,friends/family?

You need the eqemu files to host a server and when ya edit the config.xml file make sure ya make it a mini login and then also DL the minilogin files for the server host to enable LAN play or just make it a normal server (connected to the eqemulator servers).

Criimson