At my wits end...

[gernblan]

No offense but one of your main issues it that you're using windows.

I'm not trying to bust on windows or anything (even though I hate it's bloated guts) but what I am saying is that through experience, I have found that the server running on Linux is much more stable.

It's WORTH the learning curve (which actually isn't' that much since Linux installs are well documented here).

Another thing to consider is that that server pack installer may be out of date, especially if you're using one that comes with a database. Consider it "not working" and let it take you part of the way, but then get a modern DB (I highly recommend Angelox's classic) and then use the wiki to get it running.. if you insist on staying on windows.

If you're willing to try Linux... grab a good distro (Fedora seems to work a treat, it does for my server anyway... Ubuntu also works with some tweaking.. the best experience I have found has been on gentoo though as you can really tune up the system with it and get rid of ALL bloat easily but it is NOT for the noobie in any way shape or form) head on over to the wiki and prepare to be quite proud of yourself when you get it working.

Because once that part is done, you'll have a very stable, fast and easy to maintain server.