I went into my dbg file this morning and found this. I'm not the most savy with ports/modem stuff so I am hoping someone can confirm what this means.
I only added in the section that seemed to apply directly to the inability to connect.
[Mon Sep 16 00:23:19 2013]00516:Initializing character select UI.
[Mon Sep 16 00:23:19 2013]00517:Resetting game UI.
[Mon Sep 16 00:23:24 2013]00518:Zone Connect -- 0 -- Received MSG_ZONE_ADDRESS
[Mon Sep 16 00:23:24 2013]00519:Zone addr [67.23.190.82:40475] received...
[Mon Sep 16 00:23:24 2013]00520:ZONING
[Mon Sep 16 00:23:24 2013]00521:Networking: Connection Closed [0] with 0 pending bytes.
[Mon Sep 16 00:23:24 2013]00522:Networking: using port [52985].
[Mon Sep 16 00:23:24 2013]00523:Networking: Connection Established [1]
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:24 2013]00524:Could not connect to 67.23.190.82:7070 [client

isconnectReasonConnectFail,server

isconne ctReasonNone]. Negotiation count: 601.
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:24 2013]00525:Networking: Connection Closed [0] with 0 pending bytes.
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:24 2013]00526:Failed to connect to zoneserver (67.23.190.82, port 7070), result = 1, for MSG_ZONE_ADDRESS.
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:24 2013]00527:THE SERVER IS NOT RESPONDING.
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:24 2013]00528:
end of DisplayScreen
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:26 2013]00529:disconnected at C:\p4\EverQuest\live\EverQuest\EverQuest.cpp:17890 (char. select) g_world == NULL
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:26 2013]00530:Character is .
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:26 2013]00531:YOU HAVE BEEN DISCONNECTED.
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:26 2013]00532:
end of DisplayScreen
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:29 2013]00533:Attempt to send message 13716 on a void connection.
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:29 2013]00534:Cleanup 1
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:29 2013]00535:Cleanup 4
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:29 2013]00536:Cleanup 5
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:29 2013]00537:Cleanup 6
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:29 2013]00538:Cleanup 7
[Mon Sep 16 00:24:29 2013]00539:Cleanup 8