server computer question

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Ok, I am a newb here so go easy on me. My son and I like to play eq, but he just turned 7. Playing on the normal servers is not advisable for him since he cannot read fast enough or really understand what people are saying to him. Also, the situations and politics in the game are difficult. We each have our own computer, and I was thinking about running a server on my wifes computer so Tim and I can play. Do you guys think this is too much and I should just play on someone elses server, or is setting up/running a server not bad for a casual player?
Also, lets say my wife would want to use her computer for like surfing or email, something minor, would she be able to with the server running and a couple of us playing on it? She has an XP2000 with 512mb ram running 2000pro right now. Thanks guys.