problem with making server

[SoTRichard]

well i went ahead like you suggested and did the rest of what the guide said. when i opened world.exe a bunch of the errors #2006 saying mysql server has gone away keep coming up.... ive done the grant all privileges on eq.* to user@localhost identified by 'password' with grant option; thing over and over again... and ive looked under http://www.eqemulator.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=1169 and tried what it said but still getting the error. ive checked my password, username, database, and host in the db.txt and on run>cmd by testing it there. same password and username on mysql as well.... my server appears locked on the server screen .... any helpful info on what to do?